Friday, March 02, 2007
Don't Relate Your Soap Opera to Others
Relating our personal soap opera to others might be enjoyable but it does not help. Telling dramatic stories about how we have been wronged or misunderstood actually strengthens the soap opera. We become more vested in the drama than we are in finding support or a solution. We get all worked up again and don't let things drop or die away naturally.
"Guess what my wife did last night?"
"You know what my husband told me when I asked for a new refrigerator?"
These are stories told to entertain others with the ongoing drama that proves our life is interesting. It is a lot different than sitting down and asking someone to listen and help. Everyone wants bigger than life experiences so we tend to exaggerate and embellish.
Most of our stories are about things that bother us or people that bother us. In telling our soap opera many small innocent things can get blown up and take on different meanings until we become convinced that our wife is cheating on us or our husband is abusing the children.
Our listeners add their own drama to ours and soon grandma and grandpa need to sell their home and move into a nursing home where they can be taken care of properly. Forget about what they want. All you know is grandpa fell and broke his hip. Grandma isn't strong enough to take care of him.
Everyone has opinions and loves a good story. Soon the story is not even ours any more. By telling stories our friends form wrong impressions based upon false data. Sure, they might be supportive and on our side but we might be in the wrong. This is especially true when we are telling negative stories about our partners, friends or family members. False impressions can be very harmful in the long run. There are two sides to every story.
Indiscriminate sharing just provides gossip and prevents us from letting go and healing from the injury or injustice. Others will bring it up again long after the fact just to see how you are doing and what the news is. It also means that we are talking negatively about those we love and care about behind their back. If we do that to those we love, how can we be trusted?
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"Guess what my wife did last night?"
"You know what my husband told me when I asked for a new refrigerator?"
These are stories told to entertain others with the ongoing drama that proves our life is interesting. It is a lot different than sitting down and asking someone to listen and help. Everyone wants bigger than life experiences so we tend to exaggerate and embellish.
Most of our stories are about things that bother us or people that bother us. In telling our soap opera many small innocent things can get blown up and take on different meanings until we become convinced that our wife is cheating on us or our husband is abusing the children.
Our listeners add their own drama to ours and soon grandma and grandpa need to sell their home and move into a nursing home where they can be taken care of properly. Forget about what they want. All you know is grandpa fell and broke his hip. Grandma isn't strong enough to take care of him.
Everyone has opinions and loves a good story. Soon the story is not even ours any more. By telling stories our friends form wrong impressions based upon false data. Sure, they might be supportive and on our side but we might be in the wrong. This is especially true when we are telling negative stories about our partners, friends or family members. False impressions can be very harmful in the long run. There are two sides to every story.
Indiscriminate sharing just provides gossip and prevents us from letting go and healing from the injury or injustice. Others will bring it up again long after the fact just to see how you are doing and what the news is. It also means that we are talking negatively about those we love and care about behind their back. If we do that to those we love, how can we be trusted?
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Who knows why one person gives up and dies while another struggles on through overwhelming odds and comes out on top? We all want to survive. But are we willing to do what needs to be done?
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